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Eating Disorders in the Spotlight

An Interview With Eve Eliot

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In an affluent society, where food is so available to the majority of the population, obesity is more of a problem. So in such a world, more value is placed upon extreme thinness. What is beautiful changes with each season it seems, because what is beautiful needs to reflect what is hard to achieve. Beauty has become a form of fashion instead of a sign of survival.

I like to ask myself the question, "In a blind and deaf world, what would be considered beautiful?"

iP: What can we do to help our children have more balanced values?
EE: Have more balanced values ourselves. The most unsettling thing to children is unsettled parents. I hear a lot in my work about worry, about how parents fear that if they were to divorce, for example, the children would be devastated, as though parents hanging around the house like cardboard cut-outs playing a charade of a happy family is not going to be sensed by the children and devastate them.

Children feel very acutely what is going on beneath the surface. They are not as willing or as practiced as we are about pretense. Their guidance systems are much more highly attuned, like those of animals. Animals do not "believe" what we are saying with our words. They do not have dictionaries of alphabets. They "believe" what we say with our feeling tone. It is the same with children.


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