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Home › Articles › Eating Disorders › Eating Disorders in the Spotlight

Eating Disorders in the Spotlight

An Interview With Eve Eliot

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Impeding beliefs – and we all have at least one – can be examined in therapy.

iP: What about Barbie, Britney and Bazaar?
EE: If looking at or thinking about those "B" things disturbs you, do not look at those things. They are not going to go away, so YOU have to go away if you hate yourself when you look at or think about them. Stay close to your inner being, and you will feel much better immediately, no matter what you think you look like. Most people are actually so busy worrying about what THEY think they look like that they are not really paying that much attention to what YOU look like!

iP: What about pressure from other people: parents, friends, co-workers?
EE: Other people are just trying to be happy, just like you. However, like most of us also, they have connected a number of dots incorrectly. That is, they have connected their own happiness with how YOU are doing. Or, they have connected some form of "should" to YOUR well-being.

Most of us have the idea that if things outside were the way they SHOULD be (the way WE want them to be!), we would feel better, be happy. For example, people often become quite emotional about whether their candidate is elected president. But who is president does not change how you feel when you wake up in the morning, because who is president or whether there are any more eagles or whether there is an oil slick in the sea, has absolutely no bearing on how you feel about yourself, which is the major factor accounting for well-being.


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